Sorry in advance for the hefty read, I hope you can take the time to look through it and maybe give me your opinions. I hope I got this in the right forum. I'm young, impressionable, tender and easy to corrupt. I've been brought up to 'want' to go into banking or some such. The truth of the matter is that I'm not sure if I want to. I find it hard to believe that I want to end up like those people I see walking round London; they look knackered, their eyes have bags under them, it seems they can barely walk from the burden of it all and almost all of them have no sense of humour. Not one of them is fit and despite the potential reward of alot of money and a flashy car, maybe early retirement, you can just tell they're going to die a couple of years after they stop working. Do I really want to be just another worn out sod with an inability to socialise and give basic instructions in a coherant manner? Yes, there is the money, if all goes well I get an early retirement. I get the chance to have a wife, a family and a nice life in Norway, Germany, the United Kingdom or some other country. It's the sacrifice I may have to pay for this that scares me. Not everyone makes it anyway, if everyone did then there'd be no such thing as a 'success' because there'd be nothing to compare the success stories to. Those who are Serving or Ex-Military often have to put up with Walts, but in the few years that I've been around I've met more than my fair share of 'banker walts'. It's clear to see who's genuine and who's bullshitting, but those people piss me off and they're everywhere. What pisses me off even more is that one day I might become one of them. I often feel like I ought to disagree with war. I refuse to blame the soldiers like so many do, and these people are the same lot that if ever there was a slight threat to their lives would be the first to demand the troops get moving. Again, I don't want to be like that. I've got the rest of life ahead of me, alot can happen in that time; riches, rags, a life where money isn't the most important thing ever. If I decide to join the Armed Forces I'd have to go in as an Officer, I feel uncomfortable unless I have some sort of responsibility. It sounds weird when put like that, but it's just how it is. Maybe it's because of how I've been brought up or maybe I'm just a headcase. I want to be an Officer not for the respect, but for doing the job I'm given to the best of my ability. I've always felt uncomfortable when singled out or given words of praise, it just doesn't sound right. I'd rather have someone tell me I'm doing something wrong than praise me for doing something right. At least if they tell me I'm getting it wrong I know they're being honest and sincere and I can use what they've told me to get it right. I don't want to be a Royal Marine Officer for the kudos of being a Royal Marine, but I'd like to join such an organisation as the RM because I get the impression that everyone who's there wants to be there and has pride in what they do. Of course, if I join the Army then whatever Regiment I end up in will be the Regiment I see as 'the best'; so I don't want to be in it for what I consider the best of the best, the 99.99% need not apply doesn't really appeal to me. I just want to join an organisation that I know works; the question I'm asking here is as far as you all know do any military organisations really have a problem with people who don't want to be there? I admit that I'd probably never become a Royal Marine Officer, no matter how hard I tried, I'm asking here first because I don't really know where to go at ARRSE or what career I might want to follow in the Army. When it comes to any of the services the thing is I don't know if I'd succeed or if it's the right choice for me until I've tried. I've vowed to take chances, and to not let things slip away, this might be a chance for me to see some other countries and work in an organisation that I know ought to be fairly efficient. I'm asking whether you feel I should choose Bentley or Basha. So, should I go for it? To summarise: 1. Does the Army, or Navy/RM for that matter, have problems with people who don't really want to be there? 2. Should I pursue a life in the military or should I stick with what I've been trained for since birth and die a miserable, yet rich, middle-aged man, or even worse, end up like my father? Would I even be of any use to you lot? I'm looking for advice and opinions, also if I do go for it how should I go about university, etc? The Careers Office at my school doesn't take well the idea of a pupil joining the military, so they're not really an option to be consulted. Please bear in mind that I have a long way to go before having to make this choice once and for all. I also go to an all boys school so I know what to expect and do in a woman-less and lonely environment [Run being a good suggestion].