Mess functions can be tricky though - I'm aware of one cou[ple (she wardroom, he JRs mess) that fell foul of the social side with her not being permitted to invite him to supposedly open wardroom functions and also being refused permission by the pres of the wardroom to attend JR Mess functions. Unsurprisingly both are now ex-RNR!
Soggy, our CO's a reasonable chap, he wouldn't kill you, Although he may castrate you!!! Thats if you have anything left to loose after the shot in the gahoonies last week, OUCH!!!!! It brought tears to my eyes. I've never seen someone shake as much.
When I went through Part III Training at Dryad in the 80s I recall hearing of the Volunteer Band C/Sgt who was seeing the CO's daughter. I believe the CO not only took exception to the fact that, not only was he was a RMBS SNCO, but also he was Afro-Caribbean. The aforementioned SNCO was mysteriously posted elsewhere... 8O