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Opinions needed please guys

PINCH

War Hero
isomerism said:
can anyone suggest a better forum for me to get some more questions asked without direspecting the integity of this thread?

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"I have sympathy with some of your remarks, but for the short time(s) that I was a navy wife I did not feel the need to subvert my career to that of my husband(s). Surely a relationship works by way of compromise and sacrifices on both sides. When compromise and sacrifice is no more so is the relationship, which of course goes without saying."

No sympathy needed, I wasnt moaning at all just saying if his g/f is already saying it want work and she will never move away from her home town or travel to fas/ply and he wont travel how can it work? I was saying some of the things I think you need to be ready to do if the service calls for it, as after all thats who has the final say, and as a Navy wife unless you have been very lucky you must be aware of the crap that comes your (as in husbands and yours) way.

I can say I know more then a few wifes know have had the choice, stay down south with jobs/career or move up with they husbands. I had to leave my nurse training for example, I am going back to it in September, so its just taking longer its a small sacrific to make - but I would rather that then be apart espically with a baby and in practical terms we could NEVER afford for me to rent say down south and him leave on base. compromise and sacrifice yes as needed on both sides but there are times that its is not possible in the Navy.

Glad you managed to keep your career as it was, but I dont think its that common, I was at a meal with about 6 other wifes all but one had to leave good well paid jobs to move up here and havent found much up here, many now have children which of course changes everything.

I am not/or wasnt meaning to say I roll over give in to everything my OH wants, I just know there are some things with the Navy he has no control over and therefore if I want to live with him and want to bring our daughter up together I have no control over it either.

You are right give and take is needed on both sides in life but the Navy often doesnt see that, thats what I ment.
 

looby

Newbie
I think it's quite sad that people asking for advice are getting criticised...as are the people trying to help out with their experiences etc. yes some questions may have obvious answers to those of you who have been through it and perhaps things should have been dealt with at initial interviews etc......perhaps that's a failing on the navy's part rather than the recruit?
As for the Navy wife bit.........I have been with my husband 13 years 9 of them married and have only just now relocated to be with him.....Yes I did have a career.....but sometimes your priorities have to change and as proudnavywife says those serving have to do as they're told and we either live with that or we don't.....obviously some choose not to.....perhaps the clue here is in the words of rosinacarley "short time(s)" and "husband(s)" Some of us see marriage as a lifelong commitment and that means taking the rough with the smooth, and as a military wife we often have to take more rough than those with husbands on civvie street. Some of us can hack it others can't!
 
looby said:
I think it's quite sad that people asking for advice are getting criticised...as are the people trying to help out with their experiences etc. yes some questions may have obvious answers to those of you who have been through it and perhaps things should have been dealt with at initial interviews etc......perhaps that's a failing on the navy's part rather than the recruit?
As for the Navy wife bit.........I have been with my husband 13 years 9 of them married and have only just now relocated to be with him.....Yes I did have a career.....but sometimes your priorities have to change and as proudnavywife says those serving have to do as they're told and we either live with that or we don't.....obviously some choose not to.....perhaps the clue here is in the words of rosinacarley "short time(s)" and "husband(s)" Some of us see marriage as a lifelong commitment and that means taking the rough with the smooth, and as a military wife we often have to take more rough than those with husbands on civvie street. Some of us can hack it others can't!

Careful what you wish for hun, pedestals are notoriously difficult to balance on.

In case you missed tongue in cheek, I am happy to set the record straight - first marriage, married young and full of the best intentions, ended after three years when he (the sailor) slept with my best friend in the marital bed whilst I was away with the RNR. Second marriage to the Po Stoker came only after he had left the mob.
 

bigbungy

Badgeman
She has obviously heard about 'Jacks' reputation of a girl in every port etc, but i dont think that will concern you as you wont get many opportunities on Nuclears. Its probably the thought of being separated for weeks on end etc. to be fair it wouldnt be fair on her. BUT dont pass up the opportunity of a lifetime for a bird . Just think, you will one day be on here reminiscing like us, the old and bold !
Good luck mate, whatever happens. :salut:
 
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