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sgtpepperband said:
SubmarinersOH said:
Unless your GF is very independent, strong willed, trusts you, loves you unconditionally and is willing to support you 100%, it won't work.

For what it's worth, I am a submariner's girlfriend and no, it isn't easy when you lot are away but there are upsides, lots of them! :biggrin:

Yeah, we know what they are... any Army bases nearby?! :twisted: :lol:

Cheeky fooker lol

Well, it is the only way you can down grade without an excuse............
 

SubmarinersOH

Midshipman
sgtpepperband said:
SubmarinersOH said:
Unless your GF is very independent, strong willed, trusts you, loves you unconditionally and is willing to support you 100%, it won't work.

For what it's worth, I am a submariner's girlfriend and no, it isn't easy when you lot are away but there are upsides, lots of them! :biggrin:

Yeah, we know what they are... any Army bases nearby?! :twisted: :lol:

:lol:


Why, are you in need of some pongo loving? o_O

This website should help
http://www.armyjobs.mod.uk/In+Your+Area.htm :salut:
 

isomerism

Newbie
Hey Chaps,

I'm hoping that I get into the RN in Feb...doing the usual..losing weight, reading a lot and practicaly talkig to anyone in the forces that i can. I want to jin and train as a submariner, primarily as a medic. But I am now getting real nervous as my interview is in feb and I am surely bricking it. I'm 28 and know that it's an older age to join, but have heard for submariner medics, maturity is an asset. Can anyone give me any tips, advice and a basic 'heads up'. I'm a little worried about the physical training as i'm not exactly svelt..but my stamina is getting there. if anyone can offer any advice please let me know.

many thanks to you all!

[email protected]
 

looby

Newbie
Northernsub, you go for it, as others have said if you don't follow your dream because of what your gf wants you will resent her for it............my husband left the forces for his prev gf and regretted it, he joined up again when we'd been together a year, and we're still going strong 10 years later. What I will say though is that it takes someone very special to put up with the [email protected] that comes with being married to a submariner, or anyone in the forces for that matter....only time will tell whether your gf can hack it.......but be assured if she can't you'll find someone who will. Good luck with your training and maybe we'll see you up in Faslane.


isomerism..........my hubby was 28 when he joined up and carried a bit of weight..........you are doing all the right things, just keep it up and do your best. Good luck
 

hobbit

War Hero
I supose what is happening with your relationship is a premature Dear John . Sadly familiar to many servicemen , although I was fortunate never to have received one , the affect of a DJ when far away from home is not nice from what I've seen . Having experienced the RN as a submariner and Uni both situations provide numerous opportunities for relationships and it's like Xmas everyday at Uni whereas the RN is limited to when in port . With your situation a trial period seems the way to go and evaluate after that . Above all , remain friends if possible as there is no future in losing an obviously thoughtful and realistic young woman friend . Best wishes for your future as a submariner , the best move you could possibly make , go for it .

:thumright:
 
Northern, just join up. You don't want to end up like me, regretting that you never did. If you join and find it not the life for you you can always leave (after giving yourself time to fully shake down). If you opt for girlfriend over navy and the relationship goes sour later, you'll only regret it

Whatever your decision, best of luck for the future.
 

isomerism

Newbie
:afro: not even bothering with a relationship - my main relationship i want is with the navy...and the day i get my dolphins will be like the day i would have got my wedding ring! lol

guys can anyone give me some prep ideas on the sub escape training part of phase 1? it looks pretty awesome in both sense of the words! ^_^;

I'm a smoker and desperately giving up to increase my lung capacity...but do you get given any tips and training before you're in the tank?
 
As a Navy wife I can say 100% she doesnt sound likes she has the right attitude to be a good Navy wife (or girlfriend).

A Navy wife needs to be ready to move with no notice and not moan all the way.

A Navy wife needs to be prepared to make sacrifices to their career to be with there Husband, I gave up a place at University and a girl who moved in next door left a £20K job in management.

You need to be ready for the shite as it comes often

You need to look at the positives, the pay is OK, the MQ is cheap, he likes his job, he will get a better pension then he would in civvie street, he can retire early. Yes taking our 10month old 500 miles from ALL family sucks, I do get homesick, but now this is home and you make the best off it, you make the effort to make friends.

You need trust 200%, anyway she should be pleased your on boats, no women! and not such long tours (espically on V boats, when my husband joined he went for boats, we knew he had a very good chance of getting V boats which is what we wanted as its more stable for family life, but I had to remember he could of got T boats, nothing is set in stone until drafty says so :frustrated: and even then it can change LOL :blob4: )

My husbands going to sea soon, its only an index and then a long patrol later, yes it will be hard, 500 miles from family, bring up a baby, going to college, but I knew this from day one, I supported him and encourged him to join so I am not gonna act like a brat and moan about it now, and I am proud of him. I am proud to say my husbands a submariner in the Royal Navy.

I am not trying to make myself sound prefect becuase I am far from it, but I think I do a good job as a RN wife, and I think its important that my husbands sees me making friends, going to college, enjoying life and not being a misrable old cow while he is away, because he will just feel bad, and thats no good for anyone.

Your young, have some fun, travel, spread your oats shall we say! you never know she may surprise you, you will be amazed what that sexy uniform can do!

I do think its harder if your not married as she wont exsist in the Navys eyes so to speak, you cant get a MQ, so the limited support network is even harder to use.

Good Luck with your application and training.
 

isomerism

Newbie
Just want to say thanks for all the advice guys, finding it all really usefull....can anyone out there advise me on waivers for criminal records. I have a minor driving offence..and although during my application the waiver is applied for...as anyone known of anyone in a similar situation..just covering every base before feb! Also doing a lot of running and swimming...reading..studying....anything else i should be doing?

thanks guys!
 

looby

Newbie
ProudNavyWife(toobe) Is your Hubby Vanguard then, what does he do on there? How are you finding life in Faslane? I moved up earlier this year and I'm quite liking it.
 
On driving my husband had outstanding fines and points for driving offenses no insurance (twice) & not producing, altough he was insured on a mates car he went to court wednesday and the case was tuesday!! so got the max fine and points, LOL but I come along and sorted him out! :w00t:

His application was held up for 3 months until we paid the £900 off, the offences where done in 2003 if that helps.

Looby, yes OH just joined starboard vangard, was ment to sail today, was all set, but just rolling with it. I really like Helensburgh and he seems to really like what he is doing. He just wants to get out to sea, and then get the wet bit done.
 
This thread has got to be a wind up. Hi I'm a 26 year old man about to join the Submarine Service and I'm looking for relationship advice ..... Nice one! :thumright:
 

isomerism

Newbie
no wind up - just found this thread by chance and got some helpfull advice on this thread. if you hink i could do better elsewhere all suggestions are welcome matey. but when it comes to relationship advice...just listen to what the wives have to say as they are in it for the long haul...as are those wanting to join....

i hope i haven't offended in any way! :nemo:
 
isomerism said:
no wind up - just found this thread by chance and got some helpful advice on this thread. if you think i could do better elsewhere all suggestions are welcome matey. but when it comes to relationship advice...just listen to what the wives have to say as they are in it for the long haul...as are those wanting to join....

i hope i haven't offended in any way! :nemo:

isomerism, your posts have gone from 1) asking for advice on how to lose weight to 2) asking if you will get any advice or training before going through sub escape drills (of course not), to 3) asking for advice about criminal records (a minor driving offence) to 4) giving relationship advice. The first is not unusual from newbies, although it does hijack Northern's thread. The second is not a sensible question. The third should have been discussed already at the recruiting office. The fourth is your funny one about how serious this all is and that Northern should listen to the wives because they are in it for the long haul. You've joined the wind up, haven't you "matey"? Good one. :thumright:
 
ProudNavyWife(tooBe) said:
As a Navy wife I can say 100% she doesnt sound likes she has the right attitude to be a good Navy wife (or girlfriend).

A Navy wife needs to be ready to move with no notice and not moan all the way.

A Navy wife needs to be prepared to make sacrifices to their career to be with there Husband, I gave up a place at University and a girl who moved in next door left a £20K job in management.

You need to be ready for the shite as it comes often

You need to look at the positives, the pay is OK, the MQ is cheap, he likes his job, he will get a better pension then he would in civvie street, he can retire early. Yes taking our 10month old 500 miles from ALL family sucks, I do get homesick, but now this is home and you make the best off it, you make the effort to make friends.

You need trust 200%, anyway she should be pleased your on boats, no women! and not such long tours (espically on V boats, when my husband joined he went for boats, we knew he had a very good chance of getting V boats which is what we wanted as its more stable for family life, but I had to remember he could of got T boats, nothing is set in stone until drafty says so :frustrated: and even then it can change LOL :blob4: )

My husbands going to sea this week, its only an index and then a long patrol after christmas, yes it will be hard, 500 miles from family, bring up a baby, going to college, but I knew this from day one, I supported him and encourged him to join so I am not gonna act like a brat and moan about it now, and I am proud of him. I am proud to say my husbands a submariner in the Royal Navy.

I am not trying to make myself sound prefect becuase I am far from it, but I think I do a good job as a RN wife, and I think its important that my husbands sees me making friends, going to college, enjoying life and not being a misrable old cow while he is away, because he will just feel bad, and thats no good for anyone.

Your young, have some fun, travel, spread your oats shall we say! you never know she may surprise you, you will be amazed what that sexy uniform can do!

I do think its harder if your not married as she wont exsist in the Navys eyes so to speak, you cant get a MQ, so the limited support network is even harder to use.

Good Luck with your application and training.

I have sympathy with some of your remarks, but for the short time(s) that I was a navy wife I did not feel the need to subvert my career to that of my husband(s). Surely a relationship works by way of compromise and sacrifices on both sides. When compromise and sacrifice is no more so is the relationship, which of course goes without saying.
 

isomerism

Newbie
can anyone suggest a better forum for me to get some more questions asked without direspecting the integity of this thread?
 
isomerism said:
can anyone suggest a better forum for me to get some more questions asked without direspecting the integity of this thread?

Now you're acting like a ******* girl. Click on RR Forums. There are over 20 forums including, Health and Fitness, Newbies and Nearest and Dearest. Within those you will find hundreds of threads. There is alo a search option to help you.
 
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