Get him to look at Rum Ration and have a look through the threads, I'd be surprised if there isn't someone in his entry who hasn't either posted or looked.
Say exactly that. If he leaves he will regret it.
HMS Raleigh is a strange place. There aren't many places these days that throw 30+ people of all ages and genders together and expect them to bond immediately. The INT team at raleigh do a fantastic job of making them bond. Tell him he has worked really hard to get to where he is and to stick it out. Don't concentrate on quitting, concentrate on getting the job done, getting to the end and standing on the parade ground with his family and friends being immensly proud of him.
I joined the RN when I was 18 and I remembered being absolutely terrified. If he has genuine concerns then there is his Divisional Officer or Instructor who he can have a "closed door" chat with to hopefully alleviate some of his worries. Failing that, there is always the chaplain as a point of contact to release a bit of his anxiety.
I'd be inclined to enquire whether contact has been maintained on social media and if any of the former recruits have regretted leaving yet - we often see them back in the AFCO within a week of leaving, claiming "I made a mistake". The reply being "You did" and "See you in a year or two when you are eligible to re-apply".So many thanks for you kind replies of which I've actually relaid to my son.... I've spoken to him tonight and he does appear to be more upbeat than previous phone calls!
From what he has said in previous calls the moral is quite low! He said 4 have already gone and quite a few have made it very clear they are off after 4 weeks and have no interest being there!
I've told him time and again how proud I am of him and so confident he can do this, how he's waited 2 long years to be where he is! Just keep my fingers crossed he remains upbeat
I'd be inclined to enquire whether contact has been maintained on social media and if any of the former recruits have regretted leaving yet - we often see them back in the AFCO within a week of leaving, claiming "I made a mistake". The reply being "You did" and "See you in a year or two when you are eligible to re-apply".
Rest assured pretty much everyone thinks of leaving and anyone who does leave will invariably try to coerce others into quitting also, so as to affirm their belief they're doing the right thing. People feed off rach other's anxieties and there will always be those gullible enough to think; "Well everyone else is quitting, so it justifies my leaving". They should be looking at how many haven't quit - even though they feel like leaving.