OK. I was going to book a small gathering for her indors' 40th birthday - but our parents dislike each other so i binned that. I booked a getaway for us 2 for 2 nights 3 days - at a small hotel in Bucks in UK, with a spa and (am still trying) booked a female masseur for her. Last night she was cross with me (my fault) and she said she'd have preferred what I had thought of first. She doesnt want to be away from our 2 sons (13 +17)- we never have been ! Now do I go ahead and cancel the hotel (what reason can i give them so i dont get a deposit taken off my credit card?) and try and book the meal thingy again or what? Ideas (no baseball bats req'd) please. Sanity slipping here!