Hey Doc, First of all, thanks for all the advice and wisdom you shared with us guys in "The System." My best buddy Bobby turned me on to you, and I have to say that it seems to me your principles are right on the money. But I have a question that I've not seen addressed, and I'm wondering if you can give me a little guidance here. I happen to be mired in a dating slump right now. (It's only temporary, of course, because I have your techniques on my side!) I can't seem to get the attention or numbers of any of the women I'm interested in. What I'd like to know is whether you think it's okay to lower my standards temporarily to get some dating practice and such -- you know, work on my moves.hurting the ugly onesDoc, I have a good heart and would never hurt a girl on purpose, but there is an unattractive girl -- I'll call her Chrissie -- from my past that I'm thinking about getting in touch with. We were friends about eight months ago, but nothing romantic ever happened between us. Frankly, the idea crossed my mind because I'm so lonely and Chrissie had very high Interest Level in me way back when. Since I was basically indifferent to her, I was a total Challenge to her even before I studied your book. She always wanted me to go places and do things with her, and she always offered to pay. It would have been a sweet deal if only I'd been interested in her. So what do you think in general about dating a woman knowing she is only "practice" for the next one, if you already know she will never be "Miss Right"? Doc, thanks in advance for your help. Riley -- who needs to do something instead of nothingdoc love's answerHi Riley, Guy, first let me assure you that not getting the attention and home phone numbers of the babes you really want is the way it is for every guy most of the time -- unless, of course, you play in a band. Like General Love says, "Dating can be like guerilla warfare in the Sahara Desert, and you gotta be prepared for anything!" The point is this: when you do meet the right one, you have to be armed with my material -- it should be so second nature, so internalized, that you'll be able to conquer and keep this A-list lady when you find her. In other words, you have to be like a soldier going into battle. To you Psych majors, 99% of the women you meet will be the wrong women. But what we're doing with "The System" is getting you completely set up and ready to deal with the right one.