Advice for Men

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  1. It is important for men to remember, that as women grow older it
    becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when
    they were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them. Some are
    oversensitive and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.

    My name is Ron.... Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife,
    Julie. When I took "early retirement" last year, it became necessary
    for Julie to get a full-time job, both for extra income and for the health
    benefits that we needed.

    Shortly after she started working I noticed she was beginning to show her
    age. I usually get home from the Golf Course about the same time she
    gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always
    says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't
    shout at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when
    she gets dinner on the table.
    I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so eating out is not
    reasonable. I'm ready for some home cooked food when I come in.
    She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now, it's
    not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do
    what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening
    that they won't clean themselves. I know she appreciates this, as it
    does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

    I really think my experience as a teacher helps a lot. I consider telling
    people what they ought to do; it's one of my strong points... Now that
    she has got older, she does seem to get tired so much more quickly.

    Our washer and dryer are in the basement. Sometimes she says she just
    can't make another trip down those steps. I don't make a big issue of this;
    as long as she finishes the laundry the next evening, I'm willing to
    overlook it. Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to
    the Monday lodge meeting, or to Wednesday's or Saturday's poker club,
    or to Tuesday's or Thursday's bowling, or something like that, I will tell
    her to wait until the next evening to do the ironing. This gives her a
    little more time to do some of those odds and ends like shampooing the
    dog, hoovering or dusting . . .
    Also, if I had a really good day on the course and it was wet and
    muddy, my clubs are a mess, so I let her clean them, you know . . . get
    the grit off the grips and a little light Brillo on the club faces at a casual
    My golf bag is heavy so I lift it out of the trunk for her. Women are
    delicate, have weak wrists and can't lift heavy stuff as good as men. But I did
    tell her I don't like to be wakened during my after-golf nap, so rather than
    bother me, she can put them back in the trunk when she's finished.
    Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will
    say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during
    her lunch hour. But boys, we take them for better or worse, so I just smile
    and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even
    three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her
    that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you
    know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

    When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.
    She'd take a break when she was only half finished mowing the lawn.
    I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big,
    cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And,
    as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me
    too, and then take her break by my hammock. That way she can talk with me
    until I fall asleep.

    I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Julie. I'm
    not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will
    find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do
    how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys, even if you
    just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of
    this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile.
    After all, we are put on this earth to help each other . . .
    Signed, Ron

    EDITOR'S NOTE: Ron died suddenly on Thursday Feb. 3. He was found with
    a Calloway extra long 50 inch Big Bertha II Driver rammed up his
    posterior, with only 2 inches of grip showing. His wife Julie was arrested, but
    the all-woman Grand Jury accepted her defence that he accidentally sat on

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